making friends out of nothing at all

norbit
@gv.tampinesmall
with.joanandmarie
feeling.sweetened

yes it is lame..yes there are a lot of chinese and black men jokes..yes it is eddie murphy..but it is sweet! :) i am just a sucker for the loser comes good sort of story..and that part where norbit confesses his love for kate in the church..it really warmed my heart..now that's love..

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there are two sides to the story..one from my mum and the other from everyone else. my mum always tells me that i keep too much to myself and that i cannot make friends..and the ironic other side is almost everyone else thinks that i am easy-going, super sociable and in some cases, a casanova! like when i proclaim myself single, i tend to get this weird look and a shake of the head..from my friends, from my cousins, from my relatives..like why? and then comes the typical reply, "you know so many girls, don't be fussy la!" wah lao..oh by the way, my cousins have even gone to the extent of inventing girlfriends for me! can die..

the thing is, when i am in a good mood..i make friends easily..like i know this colleague sheena for just a few weeks and some people think that we already knew each other for ages and a few are even teasing us! goodness! or like the other day, i spent nearly half an hour talking to this bubble tea store auntie about the difficulties of setting up a business in singapore..ok, so she did most of the talking! or even last night when meeting joan and her friends, marie and fen! it probably helped that marie and fen were easy to get along with! but don't try to befriend me when i am in a lousy mood..the only thing you'll get out of me is probably a grunt and a sulk..i am just emotional like that..

so why does my mum think that i am a caveman? well, as most of my friends know, i can be pretty anti-authority and constant nagging and questioning will not get anything out of me..that's not to say i do not love my mum..i do, but i don't want question upon question upon question..it irritates me! to the extent that sometimes i simply switch off! i guess that's just the way parents are..

but it's not just a matter of making friends is it? it's about being a good friend and maintaining relationships..and even though i can't be there for all of them at all times, i certainly hope that i have been a good enough friend to my friends most of the time..not just a passerby...